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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Working three jobs before medical school 
• Her love-hate relationship with medicine 
• Avoiding asking questions about maternity leave on the job trail.

Marriage: 

• How she and Dan continued to choose each other over and over again
• How we can create change for the better in medicine
• Accepting their differences 

Money:

• Sharing money since they were children
• What they consider a shared money mentality
• Treating money as a tool
• Being in sync on what is financially responsible and having open communication
• How she felt about spending money on IVF, which never comes with guaranteed results. 

Fertility:

• Forgiving medicine and her career path during fertility challenges 
• When these conversations do not happen during medical education
• Kate’s initial confusion when Dan’s thoughts were different from hers during her roller coaster of emotions  

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KATE HAPPOCK

1. How to create change in medicine. Especially when it comes to maternity leave, breastfeeding, parental obligations, work-life integration…. Starts with small conversations and supporting our colleagues. Let us be the cheerleader for our fellow physicians. Let us build each other up. Let us check on each other. Let us NOT engage in conversations that focus on degrading each other as those rarely build anything construction and definitely do not help our patients or health care in general If it is the change we want, regardless if it is for our patients, for our staff, or for our fellow physician colleagues, we can start by focusing on all the small things we can do each day. Daily conversations, compassion, and support. 
2. Our worth as physicians is not tied to how many hours we work each day or how many days a week we spend in the hospital or in the clinic. We are ALL high achievers, so stop judging, stop shaming, and start valuing each minute, each moment we care for patients, for ourselves, our for our families. 
3. When our spouse has different feelings from us about any life circumstance, this does NOT minimize ours and vice versa. We are each allowed to have our own thoughts about everything. We are each on our own journey. I distinctly remember the first year Victor and I were trying to get pregnant and each time I got my period I would cry and he would not and I honestly did NOT understand how he was not in pain and sadness like I was. I did not understand then what now. I truly appreciate Dr. Hoppock’s wisdom when it comes to allowing these differences in emotions that will inevitably arrive along the journey of life.  

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Am I choosing love every day?
• How do I value my worth as a physician?
• How can I accept the differences between my experience and my spouse’s experiences during the same journey?  
• How do I define the story of my life?
• How can I have more self-compassion for myself? 

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