I interview Anna Goodman (aka Kevin from the Backstreet Butches, aka Dandy Frank) about growing up queer in Ohio and her eventual L-Word inspired move to LA. She shares how her now extensive network within the queer LA community essentially grew out of a DM slide at age 19 and solo nights out in West Hollywood. We address preconceived notions about the lesbian community, including incestuous friend groups and what people on Tinder really want when they say they’re “looking for a third.” Finally, we dive into the highs and lows of the dating apps, and get Anna’s (and my) honest reactions to personal ads.

For a peek into Anna's life (and her Dandy Frank alter ego), find her on Instagram : @annargoods

If you're looking for a way to virtually connect with the queer community in Los Angeles, check out @jqinternational and @opendykenight

To see Kevin's contoured abs in full boyband action, check out : @backstreetbutches

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope