Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

27. Moving Through Pain During Infertility with Dr. Maneesha Ahluwalia


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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • How she fell forward from her first attending job into something powerful
  • Why she decided to work for Doctors without Borders in Cambodia, Uganda & Kenya

 

Marriage: 

  • How she stays curious in her marriage 
  • Bonding over the shoe size, toastmasters, humanitarian, and a shared burger on the first date
  • On which day of dating he said, “I love you” 

 

Money:

  • Fertility costs and how you never know how many years you will need to plan into the fertility journey
  • Why she cares about learning the finances although her hubby does most of the spreadsheets
  • How her real estate interests have evolved 

 

Fertility:

  • Their brief separation because of different child/baby wants
  • Her journey through multiple miscarriages, IUI, IVF,
  • What it means to “have my own back” during her fertility journey
  • Discovering physician empowerment
  • What moving through pain looks like to Maneesha  

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR MANEESHA AHLUWALIA

  1. Being excited about pregnancy does not make the pain any worse during a miscarriage. It is still painful. It was always going to be as painful. Allowing the emotion of excitement during the initial phases of the pregnancy journey does make it MORE painful than it would have otherwise been without the excitement. Avoiding the pain forever is impossible. Feeling the pain and moving through the pain is the goal.
  2. We are not victims of what happens in life. Every decision, every path, every emotion we experience is a choice. Doctors may say funny things. Friends may say odd things. Nurses, family, and coworkers may say strange things. They often just want to say something, but do not know what to say? Why? Because everyone needs to hear different things. So, it does not matter what people say. Do not be a victim of the words or actions of others. We can choose how we interpret the words of others. We have the power to choose what to hear. 
  3. When someone in our life may be experiencing miscarriage, fertility issues, or child loss, these are things we can say: I am here for you. I am listening to you. You get to think what you are thinking. You get to feel what you are feeling. We can talk about it or we do not need talk about it.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I stay curious in my marriage or relationship?
  • How can I stop being a victim of other people’s words? 
  • Am I telling myself that I am doing enough today?
  • How can I be more comfortable in my own skin today?
  • Do I fear getting too excited in my journey because I fear disappointment and failure? 

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Coaching Link: https://LifeCoachingwithManeeshaAhluwaliaMD.as.me/
  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Life-Coaching-with-Maneesha-Ahluwalia-MD-104629444745857
  • Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/maneesha17

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

 

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller

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