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282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding

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Believe it or not, your emotions are a competitive advantage: 90 percent of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence, and 92 percent of executives rate soft skills like the ability to manage emotions as a critical priority in today’s business environment.

That said, if you relate to the idea of being a Sensitive Striver, you may still be suffering from what Melody Wilding calls The Honor Roll Hangover—a tricky trifecta of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overfunctioning. Listen in to this conversation for the antidote.

More About Melody: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She is a human behavior expert and executive coach and teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York. 


🌟 3 Key Takeaways:

  • Leave margin in your life for serendipity and fluctuations. Don’t be afraid to book yourself to only 80% capacity.
  • Protect your time and energy by protecting your calendar. Sensitive strivers need the time to switch gears between activities.
  • Trusting yourself is the antidote to perfectionism, overfunctioning, and people-pleasing. Depend on your intuition more.

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    📝 Melody’s Permission List:

    • I hereby grant myself complete and unlimited permission to: 
    • In order to:
    • Specifically, I have permission to feel: 
    • I have permission to be:
    • Specifically I have permission to push when: 
    • I have permission to rest when: 
    • I have permission to start: 
    • I have permission to try: 
    • I have permission to stop: 
    • I have permission to let go: 
    • Giving myself full permission and wholeheartedly believing in myself is important right now because: 
    • I trust myself to: 


      📘 Books Mentioned:

      • Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business 
      • Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One
      • Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work
      • Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free
      • The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You


        • 🔗 Resources Mentioned: 

        • Melody on the web | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
        • Video: Celebrating one year of Trust Yourself
        • Articles: Medium Article on Trust Yourself, Forbes on Being an Overfunctioner at Work


          • Related Podcast Episodes: 

          • The Penney & Jenny Show (12 episodes)
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          • 172: Self-Care for Empaths and HSPs with Sarah Santacroce
          • 148: Penney & Jenny Show—Pivoting From Toxic Situations Toward Self-Entertainment
          • 112: Whose Voice is in Your Head? Perfection Detox Round Two with Petra Kolber
          • 73: What's more important to you than perfection? With Jenny Blake
          • 56: Perfection Detox with Petra Kolber
          • 78: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t — With Andrea Owen

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