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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

• Meeting for the first time in anatomy lab
• What it was like searching for a job in the same field
• Why Sanjay says “It really does get better” for the trainees

Marriage: 

• How to maintain open lines of communication while keeping judgment out of it
• Why learning how to fight with each other is key
• How Sanjay unknowingly spread the bread crumbs for Matt before the proposal

Money:

• How they maximized their travel dollars as residents
• How they handled the transition of income from residency to attending
• The differences between how they grew up and how they viewed their increase in salary

Surrogacy:

• The “hurry up and wait” process
• What the interview process for surrogacy looks like
• Keeping in contact with the surrogate 
• The mental energy involved in planning to have a surrogate
• What the relationship with their surrogate might look like after the birth

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM MATT AND SANJAY

1. We can always improve how we fight with our spouse. What we say and what our spouse hears may be significantly different. So let us slow down the argument. Figure out what our partner is hearing rather than continuing to push our side of the argument.  Sanjay also says to Keep judgment to ourselves and listen to what our partner is hearing. Keep an open mind and approach it from how can I show up as the best version of myself in this situation. 
2. If you are a trainee listening know that “It really does get better.” All those feelings of inadequacy and questions like “do I belong?” , “why am I doing this?”, and “is this really what I want to do for the rest of my life?” are NORMAL!!!!! A lot of trainees think these thoughts yet may not be expressing them out loud.  I would like to add if you feel this way now, reach out to someone you can confide in.  A mentor or close friend. We are not alone, my friends. 
3. Sanjay gave us a beautiful example of how we can all learn to be more responsible with money. Observe. Learn from those around you. He watched a close family member make more money than he could ever imagine and then lose it. Sanjay walks away from this with foresight and the determination to start planning for his retirement immediately after training if not during it. He could have chosen to perpetuate this cycle...done what those before him did….but he has decided to take control of his finances and prepare his family  What can you learn from those around you? 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How have I grown with my partner over the years?
• How has my love for my partner evolved over time?
• How has being with my partner during the pandemic been better than if I were to have been alone?
• Am I spending my income on things that bring me joy?

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Michael at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/mrinsurance or contact him at 800-817-4522