WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR US TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS? We discuss how often we deflect uplifting compliments and get to the root of why it may feel uncomfortable. We provide some tips to break this cycle and be showered with all that positivity and love. LET. IT. RAIN.

[1:12] We clarify what "accepting the damn compliment" actually means...no, we don't mean those harassing compliments AKA cat calling or constantly seeking approval from others.

[3:08] Compliments that Nina & Nat have struggled with

• Body Weight
• Fashion & Style

[4:17] Natassia mentions the famed Confidence Code

• Brings insight as to how our female brains works
• Highlights why we as females struggle with our thoughts
• Favoritism of self depreciation over boasting

[6:12] Being humble vs. overconfident

• How the two plays into compliment acceptance
• How it applies to valuing yourself

[7:15] We discuss how we catch deflection of compliments in not only ourselves but others

[9:09] Nina discusses how she constantly sought approval from compliments in the workplace

[13:17] What is at the root of compliment deflection?

• Degree of comfort
• Reflection of self-worth
• Level of trust in yourself also determining your trust in others

[17:31] How we teeter on the edge of compliments

• Too overly confident to no confidence at all
• Environment dependent: male vs. female dominated field
• The role of insecurity

[19:21] Compliments within a male denominated sphere

• Use of "sweetie" & "honey
• Discussion on female emotions in the workplace
• Maintaining balance between complimenting and condescension

[21:31] We highlight the male and female interaction and how that may complicate compliment acceptance

[23:41] Overview of the challenges in accepting compliments

• Alignment with self-worth
• Trusting yourself and others
• Discernment between being overly confident or not enough confidence

[24:11] Tips on accepting the damn compliment

• Building self-awareness of why you deflect
• What is the inner narrative you form when you a receive a compliment
• Get to the root of why a compliment may be uncomfortable for you
• Catch yourself before the deflection and say thank you
• Paying attention to others and remind others as well
• Practice those personal affirmations

[30:17] BYNT Challenge

• With your affirmations, begin to compliment yourself….IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR...GASP

Books mentioned: The Confidence Code by Clair Shipman and Katty Kay

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Let it rain with those amazing compliments!

Love ya,

Nat & Nina