Dr Ndaba observes an idea around how we can ensure we process ill experiences a bit better and successfully. He says the quicker we accept that traumatic experiences are going to change us, the better the chances of dealing with them well. He says the challenge is that we usually want to return to be the people we were before the experience, and its not going to happen. You are coming out if this thing a different person. Rather focus on being part of the process of how different you come out, but you are coming different for sure.