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Welcome to Ethical Shit Talk - a segment dear to Mer and Sarai's hearts. It's the contemplative / expressive practice of diving headfirst into the drama, and then doing the personal work to figure out why you cared so much. This week's subject: the absolute internet tornado surrounding Lindy West's new memoir Adult Braces Driving Myself Sane, in which she writes honestly about her marriage opening up, her husband's girlfriend Roya moving in, and — apparently — destroying feminism forever. According to some Substacks.
For the uninitiated: Lindy West cut her teeth as film editor at The Stranger under Dan Savage, became the internet's favorite punching bag for daring to exist in a fat body in public, wrote the beloved Shrill (yes, that This American Life episode is as good as you heard), and is married to Aham — sibling of Ijeoma Oluo, author of So You Want to Talk About Race. It's a lot of feminist crossover. It's genuinely delightful.
Sarai and Meredith get into: why concern trolling Lindy West's marriage is just fat phobia, TERF-dom, and - dare we coin a phrase "polyphobia?" with a new outfit, what compulsory monogamy has in common with compulsory heteronormativity, the very unhinged email Aham sent to Slate, and the parallel universe where Glennon Doyle spent another decade trying to want to want to have sex with a man. (She didn't. Thank Goddess. Abby Wambach entered the chat.)
Also discussed: relationship anarchy (not what you think), anti-polyamory think pieces, the Moral Majority (not caused by throuples, as it turns out), and Scamfluencers by way of Saachi Koul's profile on Lindy West and her new book (about which, the aforementioned unhinged email was sent).
As the great Tobias Fünke once said about opening one's marriage: "Oh. It never works...but it might work for us."
Lindy West, if you're reading this: saraijohnson.com. She's a somatic sexologist. She pre-ordered your book. She's rooting for you. Call her.
For your astrology and human design needs: fourthcupastrology.com.
Work with Meredith: fourthcupastrology.com
Work with Sarai: saraijohnson.com
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By Sarai Johnson and Meredith HolleyWelcome to Ethical Shit Talk - a segment dear to Mer and Sarai's hearts. It's the contemplative / expressive practice of diving headfirst into the drama, and then doing the personal work to figure out why you cared so much. This week's subject: the absolute internet tornado surrounding Lindy West's new memoir Adult Braces Driving Myself Sane, in which she writes honestly about her marriage opening up, her husband's girlfriend Roya moving in, and — apparently — destroying feminism forever. According to some Substacks.
For the uninitiated: Lindy West cut her teeth as film editor at The Stranger under Dan Savage, became the internet's favorite punching bag for daring to exist in a fat body in public, wrote the beloved Shrill (yes, that This American Life episode is as good as you heard), and is married to Aham — sibling of Ijeoma Oluo, author of So You Want to Talk About Race. It's a lot of feminist crossover. It's genuinely delightful.
Sarai and Meredith get into: why concern trolling Lindy West's marriage is just fat phobia, TERF-dom, and - dare we coin a phrase "polyphobia?" with a new outfit, what compulsory monogamy has in common with compulsory heteronormativity, the very unhinged email Aham sent to Slate, and the parallel universe where Glennon Doyle spent another decade trying to want to want to have sex with a man. (She didn't. Thank Goddess. Abby Wambach entered the chat.)
Also discussed: relationship anarchy (not what you think), anti-polyamory think pieces, the Moral Majority (not caused by throuples, as it turns out), and Scamfluencers by way of Saachi Koul's profile on Lindy West and her new book (about which, the aforementioned unhinged email was sent).
As the great Tobias Fünke once said about opening one's marriage: "Oh. It never works...but it might work for us."
Lindy West, if you're reading this: saraijohnson.com. She's a somatic sexologist. She pre-ordered your book. She's rooting for you. Call her.
For your astrology and human design needs: fourthcupastrology.com.
Work with Meredith: fourthcupastrology.com
Work with Sarai: saraijohnson.com