The Problem: Superficiality* Growing up in New York, the "How You Doin’?" greeting often remained superficial, resembling Seinfeld episodes or Joey's casual query from Friends.* The issue is our tendency to communicate at a surface level, masking true feelings with activities and events, resulting in a society plagued by superficiality.* Superficial connections hinder genuine understanding and prevent deep connections; the challenge is to move beyond the familiar surface.The Practice: Check-In* The remedy involves regular check-ins, not just with others but, crucially, with our own hearts.* Through non-judgmental self-attunement, we learn to be curious about our inner experiences, cultivating kindness and compassion toward ourselves.* The goal is to extend this self-awareness to others, practicing honor even in disagreement, managing our hearts well, and working through fears that hinder connection.The Transformation: Healthy Heart-to-Heart Connection* Genuine love within our hearts serves as a compass, transcending the narratives in our minds and bridging intimidating differences among us.* By tending to our vulnerable inner selves, we can show up with depth, compassion, and healing presence for others.* The key is to regularly ask ourselves and others, "How you doin'?" with genuine intent, fostering a culture of authentic connection and honoring the hearts of those around us.Dr. Alison Cook - Best of You PodcastCheck out lk10.com to learn more about how you can join the relational revolution.