How you speak to and about yourself matters. When things don’t go away we tend to blame ourselves and our circumstances. This issue with blame is that it doesn’t offer a lot of room to learn and grow. Instead of placing blame, you can use the opportunity to learn, make peace, and grow.

When things don’t go our way our nervous systems often fall into anxious, depressed, or fearful states. This is hard on our nervous system, it’s hard on our bodies. Here are some questions to ask yourself that can offer your nervous system some sense of peace and empowerment.