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3: The Reasonable Parenting Time Clause Courts Won't Save You From
"Reasonable parenting time" sounds flexible and mature. Until you try to enforce it.
What's reasonable? Every day? Every other weekend? Wednesday dinners? Your ex thinks one thing. You think another. And when you can't agree, you're either spending thousands going back to court or letting your ex control when you see your kids.
In this episode, I'm breaking down why "reasonable" is the laziest, most dangerous clause in parenting plans, and why it's so fucking easy to fix.
I walk through the vague garbage clauses courts love to use, why flexibility fails in high-conflict situations, and what actually works: start times, end times, every single minute accounted for from Sunday to Sunday.
Because if your parenting plan doesn't clearly define when you have your kids, you can't build a relationship with them. And in high-conflict situations, vague language means your ex runs the show.
This is the hill to die on: time with your children.
Stop letting "reasonable" control your time.
The Parenting Plan Masterclass teaches you how to account for every minute—exact pickup times, drop-off locations, every holiday defined, no vague "alternating" bullshit—so you're never begging your ex for time with your kids.
Protect your time.
Your time matters. Define it.
Here’s What You Can Actually Take Away:
"Reasonable" is not measurable - You can't enforce what isn't specific. Ten people will give you ten different definitions of "reasonable parenting time."
Vague language creates war, not flexibility - In high-conflict situations, whoever refuses to cooperate gets control when nothing is defined.
Every minute should be accounted for - From Sunday to Sunday, you should know exactly who has the child at any given moment based on the parenting plan.
Undefined holidays and vacation = guaranteed conflict - "Parties will alternate holidays" means nothing. Define every specific holiday, every vacation rule, every blackout date.
Flexibility fails in high-conflict situations - You crack the window an inch, they take the whole thing. Without specific boundaries, "flexible" becomes "your ex controls everything."
Time with your kids is the hill to die on - You can't build a relationship if you don't have clearly defined time. This is the one thing worth fighting for in your parenting plan.
This is the easiest clause to fix - Time is time. Sunday through Saturday. 24 hours a day. There's no excuse for leaving it vague.
Courts want callback potential - Vague language guarantees future legal fees. A detailed plan means you never need to call your attorney again.
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By Samantha Boss"Reasonable parenting time" sounds flexible and mature. Until you try to enforce it.
What's reasonable? Every day? Every other weekend? Wednesday dinners? Your ex thinks one thing. You think another. And when you can't agree, you're either spending thousands going back to court or letting your ex control when you see your kids.
In this episode, I'm breaking down why "reasonable" is the laziest, most dangerous clause in parenting plans, and why it's so fucking easy to fix.
I walk through the vague garbage clauses courts love to use, why flexibility fails in high-conflict situations, and what actually works: start times, end times, every single minute accounted for from Sunday to Sunday.
Because if your parenting plan doesn't clearly define when you have your kids, you can't build a relationship with them. And in high-conflict situations, vague language means your ex runs the show.
This is the hill to die on: time with your children.
Stop letting "reasonable" control your time.
The Parenting Plan Masterclass teaches you how to account for every minute—exact pickup times, drop-off locations, every holiday defined, no vague "alternating" bullshit—so you're never begging your ex for time with your kids.
Protect your time.
Your time matters. Define it.
Here’s What You Can Actually Take Away:
"Reasonable" is not measurable - You can't enforce what isn't specific. Ten people will give you ten different definitions of "reasonable parenting time."
Vague language creates war, not flexibility - In high-conflict situations, whoever refuses to cooperate gets control when nothing is defined.
Every minute should be accounted for - From Sunday to Sunday, you should know exactly who has the child at any given moment based on the parenting plan.
Undefined holidays and vacation = guaranteed conflict - "Parties will alternate holidays" means nothing. Define every specific holiday, every vacation rule, every blackout date.
Flexibility fails in high-conflict situations - You crack the window an inch, they take the whole thing. Without specific boundaries, "flexible" becomes "your ex controls everything."
Time with your kids is the hill to die on - You can't build a relationship if you don't have clearly defined time. This is the one thing worth fighting for in your parenting plan.
This is the easiest clause to fix - Time is time. Sunday through Saturday. 24 hours a day. There's no excuse for leaving it vague.
Courts want callback potential - Vague language guarantees future legal fees. A detailed plan means you never need to call your attorney again.
The Truth Bombs
Follow Samantha Boss