At the beginning of 2021, when I was setting my intentions, I told myself that I would build such a boss kidfree life that no one, not even me, would ever question me again.

For far too long I have struggled with inner conflict about my choice to live kidfree, but the pandemic really validated my perception that a traditional nuclear family life can be miserable and stressful and unsustainable. I have seen countless expressions of gratitude and relief pouring out of the childfree community ever since covid intensified early last year as we collectively witnessed the nightmare that parents continue to suffer from and suffocate under.

As 2021 fades to black, I thought it was a good time to reflect on what a boss kidfree life actually means to me, so I’m sharing three aspects of how I personally think about it. These are more philosophical and spiritual things, almost like guiding principles more so than lifestyle-related aspects of a boss kidfree life.

They are:

1. Letting go of attachments
2. Not trying to change other people
3. Not playing into obligations