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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

• When she knew she wanted to be a physician
• How her time in the spent hospital during residency affected her first marriage
• Having a spouse who understands being “on-call”

 

Marriage: 

• Meeting on Match.com and a first date at Starbucks
• Falling in love with a generous heart
• Her thoughts when the marriage counselor told her SHE had things to work on

 

Money:

• How her spouse and her views on money are drastically different
• The ultimatum she gave her fiance regarding her financial goals

 

Divorce:

• Why the SAME premarital counseling questions she never completed during her first marriage, she did on her second marriage
• Getting married in 20s after medical school because “this is what you do”
• The biggest challenge in her first marriage
• The difference between focusing on oneself versus the ex during divorce

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM TRINA

1. When we think we are going to marriage counseling for our spouse (and not ourselves), things will NOT get better. We all have things to work on, so let us focus only on working on what we can control….OURSELVES.  What to find happiness, love, and appreciation in your marriage, find it on your own first.
2. Trina tells us NOT to ever feel stuck in a terrible relationship. If you can find joy and happiness on your own and feel constantly stuck in a horrible situation, reevaluate your reasons for staying. If the two of you have truly grown apart or were never right for each other in the first place, why stay in an unhealthy environment? Remaining in a terrible relationship (after working on oneself) is not more comfortable than leaving which may seem very uncomfortable. Which hurts more? Which has the potential to add more discomfort….staying in silence, resentment, or venturing out alone into the unknown….into a new world of possibilities. This being said, don’t leave in order to find happiness. Find happiness in yourself first...once you have found that, if the relationship in itself is lacking, give yourself permission to start from scratch
3. Although divorce is NEVER fun, there is life after divorce! Going through a divorce is like going through a period grief. It is a loss even if YOU are the one who chose to leave, but it can still be so much better on the other end after you allow yourself to heal. Shifting the focus onto healing yourself and away from making ex feel bad or regret their actions or inactions will cause the pain to subside at a more manageable level. Focus on healing. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I have self-confidence? Do I look to my partner for confidence?
• What is the difference between self-confidence and confidence?
• Where do I go to find happiness? Inside myself or in my relationships?
• Is it better for me to stay or to go?
• Do I understand the money mindset of my spouse? If our views on money differ, how can I better understand their story?
• If and when I ever say goodbye to someone I have been in a relationship with, where is my focus on me or on them? On healing myself or on hurting them?

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