Shame, surrender, and shibari—Michael shares how power, polyamory, and play help him transform vulnerability into pleasure to create more loving, connected relationships.

📈 STATS | 46 straight cis white male, 15 years of solo-poly, relationship anarchy experience, teacher, artist, entrepreneur, parent, kind and gentle and very kinky, from BC, Canada, into: power play, practices and teaches shibari workshops, learning and practicing healthy poly dynamics, journaling, meditation, personal development

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Catholic roots, 15 years of polyamory, and being Luna’s number one feelings noodle friend

05:12 Tight belly shame, performer mode, and finding release through crying

10:04 Dancing as a spiritual practice and feeling fully alive in the body

14:25 Bones, books, and romance as shared specialness

20:16 Self-love, slow living, and the delicate flower philosophy

26:18 Wooing through voice notes, gentle honesty, and positive reinforcement

33:41 Parallel praise kinks, melty moments, and the magnetism of softness

37:59 Feeling safe enough to get naked and learning from anxious attachment

46:10 Real-life poly dynamics, navigating needs, and compassionate communication

53:17 Health practices, STI testing, and full transparency as foreplay

1:01:11 Safe words, feminist aftercare, and celebrating the “no”

1:06:42 From spreadsheets to feeling words and why curiosity is the sexiest skill

1:15:26 Anticipation, flirtation, and savoring the maybes

1:25:14 From Catholic shame to sex positivity, poly identity, and kink awakening

1:47:22 Shibari, power exchange, and partners who melt under your hands

1:57:31 Begging, withholding, and the thrill of can’t-yet pleasure

2:03:53 Daddy dynamics, switchy lovers, and creative erotic rituals

2:13:24 Care as kink, shame alchemy, and being forced to receive

2:25:16 Pleasure palace fantasies and the path to a more loving, shameless world

🤩 TOPICS | Polyamory, solo poly, relationship anarchy, non-monogamy, open relationships, kitchen table polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, shame, sexual shame, sex positivity, kink, BDSM, power play, daddy play, shibari, rope bondage, CNC, begging play, spanking, flogging, wax play, erotic torture, orgasm control, edging, threesomes, group sex, sexual communication, negotiation, boundaries, safe words, aftercare, sexual variety, responsive desire, anticipatory desire, sex toys, sensation play, erotic massage, fetishes, sexual transgression, relationship anarchy smorgasbord, taboo, romance, relationship labels, sexual identities, queer, homosexuality, bisexuality, heteroflexibility, internalized homophobia, cock worship, blowjobs, cunnilingus, fingering, fucking.

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