Shifting your understanding around what the root cause of your emotional suffering is. How others can't hurt you, only your thoughts and beliefs about their behaviour can. 

Our emotions are shaped by the stories we tell ourselves, and by changing those stories, we can change how we feel without needing to control others. 

This practice of reframing our thoughts helps us focus on self-awareness and empowerment, realising that the power to shape our emotional world lies within our own minds, not external circumstances.