#32 - Embracing Your 30s And Getting Older

AGING IS BEAUTIFUL. We have another more lighthearted episode this week, where we're going to talk about our fears and the false narratives we build up as we age… especially when you're a woman! From the dreaded 'ticking clock' and fears of losing our youth, we talk about a couple of the expectations we feel we need to meet. And then we're going to tell you those expectations are all BS :)

[2:40] How We Feel About Turning 30. We both had COMPLETELY experiences as we turned 30, so we're sharing our thoughts in hopes that you guys can relate.

• Natassia talks about how she thought the big 3-0 was no big deal… and then before turning 31 had a full blown existential crisis after realizing, "Crap, I'm getting older."
• Nina shares how EXCITED she was to get out of her 20s after everything she went through, dubbed The Pendeja Chronicles.

[10:20] So… Why Do We Fear Our 30s and Aging? Comparing ourselves to others is what fuels our anxiety, plus having these FALSE expectations we feel we need to meet.

• [11:50] Expected milestones from family to marriage that we think we need to meet by a certain age. These are all
• [12:53] Beauty Standards that women need to meet and the belief that beauty is associated with younger women.
• [14:45] Expectations of how older women should dress. We feel like we need to be more 'conservative' and can't show a lot of skin anymore.
• [17:10] Societal norms for women. How we should behave and what milestones we're supposed meet professionally or within our community.
• [18:38] The fear of FEELING old. Guys, we can't accurately predict how we're going to feel 5 or 10 years from now. Let it go.

[19:30] The POSITIVES of Getting Older. So, what IS great about escaping your 20s and blooming in your 30s?

• Research (supposedly) has shown that we're the happiest in our 30s.
• Embracing our own beauty, regardless of how we look. Instead of looking at wrinkles as something negative, why don't we look at it as a sign of a life well lived?
• You start to understand that there's so much more to you than your outward appearance.
• Finding out your purpose in life and WHAT YOU WANT.
• You learn a lot in your 20s and your 30s are when you can TAKE OFF.

This was a lighthearted episode that we hope helped you start your week off on the right foot. Remember, age is more about your mentality and perspective. There's no expectation you have to meet. Just be yourself and FLOURISH.

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Here's to being fabulous at any age!

Baklava,

Nat & Nina