Lisa Panos, certified life and relationship coach and author of Big Girl Pants, shares how letting go of control, learning to notice body cues, noticing the stories we tell ourselves and asking the question, "is that true?" can completely change the relationship we have with ourselves and as a result the relationships we have with others.  The problem comes when we feel comfortable even in unhappy relationships; change feels unsafe and so we stay stuck.  The truth is that happiness happens outside of safe.