Your Strong Relationship

38: Answering your questions about intimacy

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Pamela Klein, LCSW answers questions about intimacy (with Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad)

www.adaiad.org/intimacy-series

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  • 0:00 Introduction 
  • 1:32 What is desire & arousal? 
  • 3:57 Brakes & Accelerators. 
  • 7:23 I push myself and then I feel bad about that. (consent vs negating oneself) 
  • 9:55 Saying ‘not now’ vs pushing myself through it. 
  • 11:53 We have different levels of desire. 
  • 14:18 I have some ‘conditions’ that I want for intimacy. 1
  • 5:55 My spouse doesn’t seem to hear what I really want. 
  • 17:36 It just feels mechanical. How do I bring that up? 
  • 19:50 Anxiety about pregnancy is getting in the way. 
  • 22:05 Other relationship issues impacting intimacy. 
  • 24:16 We’re both uncomfortable talking about intimacy. 
  • 26:06 It’s hard to bring up issues now after so many years. 
  • 28:43 What happens in therapy? 
  • 31:29 Getting clarification about what was learned in chosson/kallah classes. 
  • 35:09 Getting comfortable trying something new. 
  • 36:12 Intimacy is getting boring. How to get back on track? 
  • 38:44 How do I tell my spouse that I just want to cuddle? 
  • 40:00 When we schedule and then it doesn’t work out, we get disappointed. 
  • 41:48 Building emotional intimacy. 
  • 44:40 I feel hurt by something my spouse said about me. 
  • 46:37 I have a need and my spouse is just not into it. 
  • 48:30 Working through what I learned in kallah class (initiating). 
  • 50:05 How do I hide my disappointment? 
  • 51:29 Physical and emotional attraction. 
  • 53:00 Arousal & climax. 
  • 54:53 Intimacy during pregnancy and after birth. 
  • 56:48 How to build emotional connection. 
  • 58:04 How much time before and after intimacy is normal? 
  • 1:00:24 Wrap up and contact info
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