38 & Dating

Dating at 38 has your biological clock ticking like a time bomb. Who knew? But what if you don't know WHEN you want to have kids or IF you want to have kids, but you're not sure you DON'T want to either? Welcome to my egg freezing process. I'm doing it. And here's what it's like. Ask me questions if you have them. It's been an interesting ride and I've learned a lot about myself along the way. I hate needles - no, I'm petrified by them - and I'm still doing it. Why? Listen go find out.

Letting go of past relationship baggage is a huge part of learning how to date well in the future. I learn this lesson daily. Even if we don't wan to admit it, we can sometimes slip and let our issues of a former flame creep into our current dating life. For example, if your ex often flaked on dates, it can be hard to trust that the next person won't flake...even if they've never shown signs of flaking. That is what relationship baggage is and we've got to let it go. It's the only way to get a better relationship in the future. In this episode, I give tips on how to let go of relationship baggage and live better for you and your dating future.

Let's talk about Ex-people. We all have them. But what role do they play in your life? Are you still cool with your exes or are you guys absolutely dire enemies? Regardless of your current situation, what can you learn from your exes? Let's dig deep into the lessons we're supposed to be learning and how to make sure we don't repeat the same mistakes. 

Separately, with every relationship, we're either feeding our faith, fantasies or fears. How do you know which one you're feeding in your current dating situation? Well, you have to learn from your past in order to know what you're doing in the present...and how to live your best dating life in the future. Join me as I share my lessons and how I determined which was which...and how you can make sure you're feeding your faith instead of your doubts in relationships.

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting broken people? A great girlfriend of mine told me she KNOWS she attracts broken men and she’s okay with it. What? It seems like it’s a badge of honor to know thyself, but if you don’t want to keep attracting the needy, broken, hurt people that you have in the past, this episode is for you. And trust me, we’ve all attracted a broken person at least once. 

Don't you wish you knew what you know now when you were younger? Here are some of the biggest things I wish I knew at 28 that I now know at 38. I talk about egg freezing as a fertility option that is a great option the earlier you consider it. Why didn't I know this at 28? I also talk about dealbreakers in relationships, what they were for me and what to look out for early on. Then we discuss defining the relationship -- yes, it's a thing. And yes, if you want to date seriously, it should be done...but don't miss the subtle signs from your partner when you do this. Last, we have to talk about big decisions - specifically, moving in together. How do you know if it's the right move? What's the risk? I give you the things to be sure of before you move in with your mate to avoid making the wrong decision.

Often times, we are carrying emotional baggage from the past that we don’t even realize and it makes it hard to date successfully in the present and future. Find out how to let go, what things you have to realize to do so and how to live your best dating life in the future. 

Being 38 and Dating, I've learned a few things...but one big lesson I've learned is how to date like a Bawse. How is it that we can be a boss at work but not in our own personal lives? Well, I'll tell you. Here are my top ways to date like a Bawse and also the things to watch out for when doing so.

This episode gives you the top 3 self-realizations necessary to date successfully. And it is deep! Some of these truths require a really hard look at yourself and a willingness to be honest with yourself. But these are absolutely needed in order to date well. You'll also meet the Militant guy who was a rollercoaster in the land of dating, but who also made me realize some key lessons in dating.  

How did I get to 38 and still dating? Easy! I share what happened in my twenties and the 10 year ex-boo, and I'll also share what lies we tell ourselves (and that others tell us) that you absolutely must forget if you want to date well and successfully. I have absolutely no regrets, and I'm having the time of my life right now, but there are things I learned along the way that I hope will help you in the dating game.

In this episode of 38 and Dating, I share the crazy story about the St. Patrick's Day date with The Dominican gone wrong. Some things you just don't do on a first date...and he did them. Also, my mom (Mama J), my dear friend Shawna and her mom (Mama C) also chime in about what things to do and not do when dating.