This episode is for you if you’ve tried tantric massage, yoni eggs, crystal wands sex coaching, or all the toys... and it just didn’t work. I explain possibly why they didn't, why you're not broken, and how I work instead.

I share why your body might resist erotic practices and how that resistance is actually protection, not failure.

In this episode I cover:

• How frustrating and shame-inducing it can feel when sex becomes a chore instead of a source of pleasure.
• How seeing all the “multi-orgasmic tantric goddess” content on Instagram can make you feel even more broken when your body just says “nope.”
• Why these tools or techniques might not have worked for you -- especially if you come from purity culture, a religious or traumatic background, or just years of feeling disconnected from your body.
• My own experience with chronic illness and how I learned to listen to the part of me that resisted healing.
• How resistance, numbness, or shutdown are actually protective responses, not failures.
• How your body may still associate sex and pleasure with danger, and why advice like “just masturbate more” often misses the point.
• How so many of us — especially women — were conditioned to override our needs and to ignore our “no.”
• Why learning where your true yes and no live in your body is foundational for sexual healing.
• I invite you to befriend your numbness, to listen to the silence, and to trust that it’s full of information and wisdom.
• How purity culture, misogyny, and a hyper-sexualized society both feed our shame and distort what “liberation” should look like.
• Why being told to do things like go to a swingers club or buy a crystal wand can feel off -- and why that’s okay.
• Agency, consent, and reclaiming your sexuality on your own terms.
• Social media censorship and how women’s voices around sexuality are still being silenced.
• You are not broken, your body holds deep wisdom, and your pleasure is yours to reclaim.

Quotes:

"The part of you that resists healing is not your enemy—it’s where the gold is."

"Your numbness, your shutdown, your freeze—they’re not failures. They’re your body trying to keep you safe.”

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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro