The Naked Unashamed Life

#40: The Want Walk: A Deceptively Simple Practice That Unlocks Your Sexual Desires


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Ever found yourself saying, "I don't know what I want!!"-- be it in bed, in love, or in your life? Try this deceptively simple yet powerful practice I call the "Want Walk" .

Designed to help you reconnect with your desires, especially if you've spent years prioritizing everybody else's needs over your own. This practice is particularly valuable for women and vulva owners who feel disconnected from their sexuality or don't know what they want in bed.

In this episode I cover:


  • Introduction to the Want Walk - Perfect for when you're thinking "I don't know what I want sexually"
  • Who this practice is for - If you've been the "good woman," put everyone's needs first, feel numb during intimacy exercises, or simply don't know what you want anymore
  • Why our "want muscles" atrophy - How being neurodivergent, highly sensitive, from traumatic backgrounds, or simply being socialized as a woman can disconnect us from our wants, needs, and boundaries
  • How to do a Want Walk
  • The bilateral movement benefit - How walking activates both sides of your brain through bilateral stimulation, helping process emotions and thoughts
  • Using your body as a tuning fork - Check in with yourself as you voice your wants - does it feel accurate? Is there something you want even more?
  • Following your impulses - Practice acting on small impulses during your walk (like walking toward a tree) to rebuild those neural pathways
  • Variations on the practice - Try a "want journal," "want dance," "want bath," or even a "want w//nk"
  • Playing "Want Tennis" with a partner - How you can practice this exercise with a friend or partner
  • The multiple benefits - This practice helps with creative blocks, relationship blocks, emotional blocks, and tuning into your intuition
  • Making it sexual - How to use this as a sexy want walk to explore your fantasies and desires (safely, in your imagination)
  • The fear of wanting - What if you want things that could radically change your life? What if you want to leave your relationship?
  • Permission to fantasize - It's okay to be attracted to or fantasize about someone who isn't your partner - fantasy doesn't equal action
  • You don't have to act on every want - Sometimes just acknowledging and allowing the desire to breathe is enough
  • Savoring the sensation of wanting - Practice enjoying that delicious erotic tension and the feeling of desire itself

If your libido has tanked and you’re tired of fluffy advice that doesn’t work, Reignite Your Desire gives you a clear, no-BS roadmap to getting your spark back. In less than 90 minutes, you’ll understand what’s really going on — and discover practical, doable ways to feel turned on by life (and yourself) again.

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🗣️ Want to gain confidence asking for what you want in bed AKA sexual communication? Start with Master Your Sexual Communication audio course: https://lucyrowett.com/master-your-sexual-communication-audio-course/


💋 Ready to get out of your head and FEEL pleasure again in sex and intimacy? Start with my free practice: Feel Again. AKA Hand Heart Vulva. https://lucyrowett.com/heart-v-integration-practice/


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Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro

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