Alternative titles: "Tea, Smut, and Shaking My Arse: My Real-Life Libido Practices"?! or "Why I’m Not Forcing My Libido — and What I’m Doing Instead"

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and talking honestly about how I’m nourishing my own libido right now-- in a season of pregnancy, big life transitions, and lower capacity.

Because it’s easy to look at a “sexpert” online and assume they’ve got it all sorted, but I’m taking myself off that pedestal. I’m a real human with a real body, and my libido ebbs and flows just like anyone else’s.

This episode is for you if you’re going through a rough time: illness, grief, depression, stress, relationship issues, or simply life being lifey-- and your desire feels low or far away.

I talk about what it means to honour those low-libido seasons with compassion, gentleness, and real-world nourishment instead of pressure or shame.

In this episode I cover:

• Why I wanted to record this episode — real talk about nourishing libido in the middle of pregnancy, exhaustion, and big transitions.

• Taking myself off the “sexpert” pedestal and showing that even as a sexologist, I have slow, low-libido seasons too.

• Letting go of pressure and guilt — not expecting myself to be constantly turned on or performative.

• Understanding libido as cyclical and seasonal, not something that’s broken or needs fixing.

• How I’m embracing slowness, presence, and sensuality instead of pushing for more.

• The importance of safety, nourishment, and stability for desire — starting with simple, real-world self-care.

• Reclaiming sensuality from the myth that it’s all about sex or orgasms.

• Allowing fantasy, imagination, and playfulness to feed desire without shame.

• What self-pleasure means for me right now — gentle, spontaneous, and restorative.

• Keeping intimacy gentle and pressure-free in my relationship.

• The medicine of movement, dancing, and fun for reconnecting to life force.

• Why low-libido seasons during illness, grief, or stress are completely normal — and what it means to meet yourself with compassion instead of judgment.

• A reminder that libido grows from safety, nourishment, and humanness — not performance or perfection.

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Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro