Violinist Abi Wilenski recounts the tale of a tour in which she wasn't listened to, while adjusting for the fact that her perspective has changed a great deal since then.

(Note: Abi sometimes says "normal" while making finger quotes when referring to hetero-normative expectations. Since you can't see said finger quotes, she asked me to mention them in this description so that no one thinks she actually thinks of hetero-normativity as normal per se.)