In this episode, I explore what it really means when you do practices like Hand Heart Vulva or Feel Again -- or any tantric, embodiment, or self-connection work -- and instead of pleasure, you feel numbness, blankness, or just... nothing. I unpack why numbness is not a sign of failure but often a sign your body is giving you real, usable information.

We dive into cultural conditioning, physiology, the freeze response, and how numbness often reflects your nervous system trying to protect you. You’ll learn why the goal isn't to force sensation, but to meet your body with curiosity, slowness, and tenderness.

Ready to dive in?

I cover:

• Why cultural and personal conditioning often create low awareness in the vulva, making numbness extremely common.
• Why many people respond to numbness by trying harder (clenching, pressing, forcing), which reduces sensation further.
• Vulvas are culturally hidden and stigmatized, contributing to disconnection, shame, and lack of embodied awareness.
• Physiological factors such as pelvic floor tension, pain, low blood flow, childbirth effects, or nerve issues can contribute.
• Numbness is still a sensation — awareness of numbness is progress and offers useful data.
• The freeze response (explained through polyvagal theory) often underlies numbness, functioning as a protective mechanism.
• Freeze contains high amounts of undischarged energy or emotion, even if it feels like “nothing.”
• Somatic theory emphasises the body’s natural drive toward completion and resolution when given space and gentleness.
• Self-compassion, slowness, tenderness, and attuned self-touch help thaw numbness more effectively than force.
• Numbness may reflect past trauma, current stressors, physiological realities, or a mix — and none of it means you’re broken.

If you’re feeling numb or disconnected from your body, make sure to download my free Feel Again practice. It's a gentle guided vulva-connection meditation that helps you come back into your body with slowness, and tenderness.

It’s completely free, and you’ll get instant access plus ongoing support via my mailing list. Get it here: https://lucyrowett.com/heart-v-integration-practice/

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