When you look closely at your own reactions , you might not like what you see.
You see the impatience.
The defensiveness.
The shutting down.
And if you don’t have a way to hold that with compassion, reflection can slide into self-criticism.

This is where resilience comes in.
Not the kind of resilience that means “pushing through”, but the resilience to sit with what you see without collapsing into shame.
To notice: Yes, that reaction was mine. And yes, it came from somewhere real.