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44: 3 Ways Not To Be A Pick Me


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Definition: A Pick Me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.

 

 

  • Check Yourself 

 

  • Why are you pressed for a man 
  • Pace your excitement especially early on 
  • He has to show who he is first, before you invest your time, money, and feelings 

 

 

  • Identify Your Standards

 

  • Establish what you want early on
  • Learn the difference between conforming and compromising 
  • Titles matter 
  • Only invest your time where there is a return 
  • Equal effort 
  • Pay attention to his actions and words 
  • Don’t fear asking questions the communication start early on

 

2a.) Find The Balance In Submission 

  • We love a man that leads and takes control but we can’t be a complete pushover 
  • Make him work for it
  • Example: He doesn’t like natural hair, so you perm your hair to please him
  • Dropping everything for him if he hits you up with plans last minute

 

 

  • Know When To End It 

 

  • Sticking to your boundaries and standards 
  • Being single doesn’t mean you’re lonely 
  • When you love yourself enough you can continue to honor your solitude
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