We sit with Ian Wessels, a Navy veteran and work-from-home dad, to explore the unseen labor, identity shifts, and relocations that define life as the primary parent while a spouse trains in cardiothoracic surgery. The talk blends candor, humor, and practical tools for mindset, self care, and community.

• military medicine training timeline and family milestones
• invisible labor and the emotional load at home
• pressures facing female physicians in male-led specialties
• strategies for moves and setting a positive family tone
• pandemic solo parenting and building core memories
• self care without guilt and being explicitly acknowledged
• identity loss and making fatherhood your own
• finding community as a male spouse through interests
• vulnerability, communication, and stating what you need
• practical tips for routines, resilience, and confidence

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