As an anxious attached person in relationship with an avoidant, I had a hard time learning to ask for help or asking for needs because I didn't want to be labeled "needy," but the more I showed up genuinely advocating for myself, the more I developed what I needed vs what I wanted and began to create language when it came to asking for help. What follows is that now, being able to ask for help, so many things open up for me - I'm able to use my resources and thus I'm able to step into more of the things that light me up in this world and make a bigger impact.