Corey Costanzo is a Somatic Therapist, a Licensed Addiction Counselor, and a Licensed Massage and Body Work Therapist. He is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage spa in Asheville, NC. He earned his Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Vermont and a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on somatic/body psychology from Santa Barbara Graduate Institute.

 

Corey joins me today to discuss the aspect of integrity and doing the right thing when faced with difficult decisions. We discuss the difference between following what our bodies and hearts tell us to do versus following our thoughts. We explain how practicing mindfulness and self-inquiry can help you determine whether you’re making the right decisions based on your values and integrity and how these practices can help you be more in-tune with your spouse, partner, or others in your relationships. We also discuss how our past experiences shape the way we make decisions and influence our decisions on doing the right thing.

 

“When the right thing is done, it can turn into some of the most profound growth experiences in life.” - Corey Costanzo

 

This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:

 

• How volunteering at a men’s detention center has impacted Corey’s perspective on doing the right thing.
• How Corey knows when he has made a good decision that is in alignment with his values.
• How to use your body as a checks-and-balances resource to guide your decisions.
• How mindfulness, self-inquiry, and breathing practices help you make better decisions that are in alignment with your core values and integrity.
• Making good relational decisions versus simply compromising.
• How to balance understanding your partner’s reality and sharing your own perspective without being judgmental.
• Corey’s recent experience of planning his sister’s surprise birthday party and how he realized he was making decisions based on his preferences instead of what his sister would want.
• The importance of being disciplined to think beyond yourself when making decisions that will impact others.
• Rewarding children for showing empathy and claiming ownership of their mistakes.
• What it means for parents to set ‘hard-core boundaries’ for their children and why Corey believes there is a more effective way to teach children to do the right thing.
• How your unique experiences, personality, and character structure influences your decision-making skills.
• An effective strategy for rebuilding trust that has been broken in a relationship.
• How to identify if your behavior and actions are in alignment with the relational agreements you’ve made.
• How learning from your previous mistakes and poor decisions helps you make better decisions in the future.

  

Let’s Talk About It!

 

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