Attachment Theory is a field of study coined in the 1950s by psychoanalyst John Bowlby. This phrase describes how the behaviors we learn as a child make a big impact on our romantic relationships as adults. We call them “attachment styles,” and there are four: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. Laura and Heather wonder whether your attachment style can change over time? Is your style a permanent label, or something you can shift? Are they doomed to be anxious attachers for life? Today, Thirsty is talking about how identifying your style can help you understand yourself better, the big lessons Laura learned from her very first boyfriend, and why “barfable moments” are A Thing. They’re also covering why you should bring your bananas to the group chat, how octopus arms help you hang on to your problems, and why anxious avoiders would rather take breadcrumbs than nothing at all.

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The Thirsty shop

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love, by  Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel SF Heller (book)

The Attached style quizzes