She spent two and a half years watching the guys around her get away with the exact same mistakes that were landing her in someone's file — and the whole time, one thought kept running the show: I don't want to be that girl.

Attorney and former undercover narcotics deputy and SWAT operator Bridget Truxillo joins Marie to talk about what staying quiet actually costs women in predominantly male industries — the discipline nobody talks about, the exact legal line between "a jerk being a jerk" and illegal discrimination, and the thirteen years it took her to stop protecting everyone else's comfort but her own.

This one covers how to tell if what's happening to you is actually illegal (and what to document if it is), why "everybody already knows" is never the same as it being on record, and the leadership habit — six praises for every one reprimand — that changes whether people actually hear you.

Listen if you've ever decided not to make a big deal out of something that's already been quietly costing you for years.