Cathy Courtenay is a leader in the Art of Circling and a dating consultant for men. Through her experience with somatic bodywork, dance, and Body Mind Centering, she helps her clients cultivate authenticity, sovereignty, and intimacy in their relationships. She believes they are the key to achieving greater compassion and love in our relationships with others while uplifting humanity and living a fulfilling life.

 

Cathy joins me today to share her experience of falling in love with her partner and the importance of meeting your partner's needs for connection and intimacy during this stage of your relationship. We discuss what it means to fall in love and the biochemical and emotional events that occur during this stage of an intimate relationship.  We discuss the balancing act of setting relational boundaries while surrendering yourself to a loving relationship. We also discuss what causes people to fall out of love and how to sustain the emotional feelings of intimacy and appreciation in your relationships to avoid falling out of love with your partner.

 

 

“If you feed the relationship and continue to give it that focused attention, it really continues to support the sense of ‘we.’” - Cathy Courtenay

 

 

This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:

 

• What it means to fall in love.
• The emotional and biochemical events that naturally occur when we fall in love.
• The balancing act between surrendering to love and setting healthy boundaries.
• How meeting your partner's needs for connection and intimacy helps you build a trusting and loving relationship.
• Why sovereignty is crucial for a healthy relationship.
• The process of vetting your relationships and introducing your partner to your family and close friends.
• Her experience with introducing her partner to her daughters.
• Why it’s important for parents to model healthy, loving relationships around their children and how it impacts their future relationships.
• Why men are often resistant or fearful of falling in love.
• How to sustain the feelings and emotions of falling in love - even in a long-lasting relationship.
• The importance of feeding your relationship with focused attention.
• How to capture micro-moments of intimacy and why they are critical for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship.
• The importance of encouraging and maintaining a sense of independence in a committed relationship.
• How falling in love with our partners has sparked a renewed sense of creativity in other areas of our lives.
• The importance of setting boundaries early in your relationship and how it helps establish trust and respect.
• Why she told her partner she was not interested in allowing him to move in with her, how he reacted, and how it strengthened their relationship.
• How taking risks and speaking your truth helps couples get to know each other on a deeper level.

 

 

Resources Mentioned:

 

• Helping Men Learn to Connect with Women
• Your Brain on Love audiobook by Stan Tatkin
• Micro Moments in Relationships

 

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