When people begin the divorce process, one word comes up again and again: fair. But what does “fair” actually mean under Illinois divorce law and is it even something the court is designed to deliver?

In this episode of the Illinois Divorce Guide Podcast, Greer Howard and Bobby Buchanan unpack why the idea of fairness can be one of the most emotionally charged (and misleading) expectations in divorce. They explore how fear, pain, and the unknown fuel the desire for things to feel “fair,” why Illinois law focuses on equitable rather than equal outcomes, and how holding tightly to fairness can actually make the process longer, more expensive, and more draining.

Bobby explains why divorce is rarely perfect or precise, how over-lawyering can backfire, and why litigating from a place of pain or revenge often hurts you more than your spouse. They also discuss common stalling tactics, emotional “pain traps,” and how to reframe your mindset so you can move forward in a more grounded, pragmatic way.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why “fair” isn’t a legal standard in Illinois divorce law
• The difference between equitable and equal division of property
• How fear and emotional pain drive unrealistic expectations
• Why trying to make your spouse “feel the same pain” can backfire
• How over-litigating increases cost without improving outcomes
• A healthier mindset to carry through the divorce process

If you’re feeling stuck on the idea of fairness or worried about being taken advantage of, this episode offers a powerful perspective shift that can help you navigate divorce more strategically and with far less emotional toll.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Please consult a professional for legal guidance specific to your situation.

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