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What happens when alcohol is no longer the problem — but the patterns remain?

In this episode of AF Superpowers, we sit down with Bobbie Malatesta, founder of 3-21 No Kiddin, to explore her recovery journey from both alcohol and gambling addiction — and the concept she calls alchitude.

Bobbie uses addictude to describe how old addictive behaviors, reactions, and coping patterns can show up even after the substances are gone. Through her story, she shares how escape evolved over time, why managing addiction didn’t work, and what shifted when she stopped numbing and started paying attention.

We talk about high-functioning addiction, treatment and relapse, the rule that changed everything (“I can’t drink to cope”), and how sobriety reshaped her relationship with time, awareness, and choice. Bobbie also shares why she’s building a new kind of sober community through 3•21 No Kiddin — one centered on connection, play, and freedom.

This conversation is honest, nuanced, and grounded. It’s for anyone who’s stopped drinking or escaping — and realized the deeper work comes next.

In this episode, we explore:

• Growing up around addiction and early exposure to alcohol
• High-functioning drinking and compulsive gambling
• Treatment, relapse, and the long road to clarity
• What alchitude really means
• Why “managing it” didn’t work
• Recovery beyond black-and-white thinking
• Building sober community without shame or stereotypes

Connect with Bobbie

• Website: 321nokiddin.com
• Instagram: @321nokiddinsoberclub
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobbiemalatesta

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