I’m yet to meet anyone who has been bullied that doesn’t continue to believe, even if it’s only in a small way, that they were bullied for a reason.  They usually feel that reason is something about them.

Either they were too much or not enough of something or they were different in some way.  Some examples are too tall, too short, not clever enough, not popular enough, not pretty enough.  Maybe they believe it was the colour of their hair, the way they dressed.  The list goes on.

And so these kids grow into adults believing they need to be more or less of these things, they need to change in some way.  I’m sure you can very easily identify how you did this yourself.  I’m also sure that deep down you know as well as I do that changing those things about you doesn’t make you less likely to be bullied. 

Your physical appearance, how popular you are or how well you fit in may be the reason you were given by the person who bullied you but you know that’s not true.

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