Attraction is not enough for a meaningful relationship. A deeper connection between two people is required for a couple to survive its ups and downs – a connection we call compatibility. It means to share values, beliefs, interests and lifestyle. It means being able to negotiate, set boundaries, solve problems and respect each other.

Understanding the difference between the two can get confusing sometimes, but when you know what to look for, you can see if it’s just chemistry, and not compatibility.

DISCLAIMER: This is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you can relate to any of these signs, please know this feedback is not meant to discredit anyone. It is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.

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References:

Barnes, S. (2017, October 7). 7 signs you’re not actually compatible with the person you have amazing chemistry with. HelloGiggles. www.hellogiggles.com/love-sex/dating/7-signs-youre-not-actually-compatible-person-amazing-chemistry/

Mandriota, M. (2021, February 16). What the Differences Between Chemistry and Compatibility Can Mean for Relationships. Well+Good.

www.wellandgood.com/chemistry-or-compatibility/

Manson, M. (2021, September 15). Compatibility and Chemistry in Relationships. Mark Manson. www.markmanson.net/compatibility-and-chemistry

Robinson-Kiss, S. (2021, November 13). Why Chemistry Gets Mistaken for Compatibility. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/they-re-not-coming/202111/why-chemistry-gets-mistaken-compatibility