Dear Boys Sometimes, it can be difficult to read the signs. you're doing all things right and you’re not getting the reaction that you hoped but you put it down to her personality and assume that ‘it’s just the way she is’. The harsh reality is in fact that she really isn’t into you and even if you enjoy the thrill of the chase, you don’t want to waste your time. It can feel like a total kick in the teeth to throw your energy into pursuing a girl when it’s going nowhere. Just in case you have your doubts, you need to know the signs.