Perfectionism and people-pleasing aren’t bad habits—they’re survival strategies rooted in patterns of emotional outsourcing learned early in life. When you’re conditioned to regulate your nervous system through other people’s approval or needs, it can keep you stuck in cycles of over-giving, self-doubt, and disconnection from your own truth. Shifting these patterns isn’t just about changing your mindset—it’s about reclaiming your body, rebuilding self-trust, and creating relationships that honor your worth.

In this episode of Mindset Unlimited, I invited Beatriz Victoria Albina to join me in a conversation about ending emotional outsourcing and the 5 steps to shift habits of perfectionism and people pleasing.

Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

• Why perfectionism, people-pleasing, and co-dependency are rooted in emotional outsourcing—and how that impacts your sense of safety, belonging, and worth.
• The difference between unhealthy empathy and healthy, grounded empathy (and why empathy isn’t the issue, the issue is boundaries).
• Somatic practices and the BRAVE process for shifting perfectionist and people-pleasing habits in everyday life.
• How to build self-trust and regulate stress in small, sustainable steps that support healthier, more interdependent relationships.

Thanks for listening! 

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LINKS TO REFERENCES MADE IN THIS EPISODE:

Empathy Isn’t the Problem

Things to Say Cheat Sheet

Dr. Resmaa

Kai Cheng Thom

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