Weddings mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people, and my friends Katie and Tony definitely know how to forge their own path. When my girlfriend and I stop by to say congratulations, they tell us about planning a wedding on their terms, and what it’s like to consider long-standing traditions in a world that’s changing more rapidly than ever.

After many glasses of wine, and a few slices of pizza, we discuss the rosé bug, the newlywed card, and…50 Shades of Grey.