You have probably heard this time and time again, to trust ourselves; however, how many of us can truly say we trust in ourselves to make the best choices, decisions, and actions for us? I know that we have been still working on this for ourselves. In this episode, we talk about the challenge being trusting ourselves as well as how to build that trust by sometimes take a little time to disconnect, step back a little.

[1:58] Knowing Your Value. We believe that the foundation of building trust in yourself is knowing your value INTERNALLY versus any external validation. We both share our experiences of how difficult it was to know this value in our earlier years of our career.

[5:00] Figuring Things Out. Oh, what a deceptively simple concept this is. As planners, we describe how figuring things out on the way has been such a challenge for us but how it has also been a key to unlocking that trust-building within ourselves. We also talk about how depression and anxiety have impacted this journey.

[9:38] Your Vision Story. Sometimes to help see what decisions align best with you, it is beneficial to take a step back and figure out what vision you see yourself fulfilling. We break down what a vision story is and how sometimes disconnecting yourself to do this can help you build that trust in yourself to make decisions that best align with that story.

[13:00] Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone. What leads us to experiences, choices, and risk is also stepping out of your own little bubble. This, in itself, exposes you to so much more opportunity to determine what is right for you. Nina discusses how this has helped her finally leave her job.

[17:05] Impactful Moments. Natassia shares a moment in her life when she chose to trust herself and how that changed her path moving forward and also how it impacted others. We also discuss the lovely "what-if" cycle that sometimes paralyzes us from moving forward boldly and defining what positive expectancy is.

[23:00] Human Resilience. In tying in with the idea of positive expectancy, in the book, A Man's Search for Meaning, we discuss how the author did not allow the trauma he went through to paralyze his decisions and how he put into practice the idea of positive expectancy.

[24:29] Takeaways. Some little nuggets of wisdom in building that trust in yourself include:

• Just Do the DAMN Thing - we like to stay in our comfort zones but most growth happens outside of this. Let's step out of our comfort zones and figure it out as we go.
• Find Your Vision Story - if you are stuck on developing this story for yourself, sometimes getting some outside perspective through a coach, workshop series or group can provide a perspective that highlights spots that we may be blind to
• Sit with yourself - think about what you REALLY want to do and why you may be scared of doing so and why have you been getting in your own way

Take a little leap of faith and we will be right there with you!

Books/Resources Mentioned:

• A Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankel

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