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6. Self-Sabotage, Crossed Boundaries and Unreciprocated Effort
Warning! Today bubbles will be burst. In Part 1 I challenge the idea of self-sabotage. I invite you to consider how self-sabotage is actually a trauma response, and explain that defining our body's act of inertia as "sabotage", is discrediting its effort to keep us safe. I then use my journey with chronic dieting and eating disorders to illustrate this. In Part 2 I answer a listener's question about how to handle a friend who repeatedly crosses their boundaries and who doesn't make an effort. I use Gottman's relational theory of "bid's for connection", my theory of "ladder of trust", and Rosenberg's theory of nonviolent communication to contextualize their experience and provide possible solutions. In Part 3 Taylor joins me to discuss Episode 2 of Netflix' Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey. Trigger warning: sexual violence
To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]
LINKS
Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/
The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto
Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions
Atomic Habits – https://amzn.to/2KCFs1E
Gottman's "Bids for Connection" - https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/
Breaking Free: How I Escaped Polygamy, the FLDS Cult, and My Father, Warren Jeffs - https://amzn.to/3Qyx28e
Keep up with me:
https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/
https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership
https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ
My books:
The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3
https://amzn.to/3sZYalY
The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up
https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA
Produced by Wowow
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By Elizabeth KupfermanWarning! Today bubbles will be burst. In Part 1 I challenge the idea of self-sabotage. I invite you to consider how self-sabotage is actually a trauma response, and explain that defining our body's act of inertia as "sabotage", is discrediting its effort to keep us safe. I then use my journey with chronic dieting and eating disorders to illustrate this. In Part 2 I answer a listener's question about how to handle a friend who repeatedly crosses their boundaries and who doesn't make an effort. I use Gottman's relational theory of "bid's for connection", my theory of "ladder of trust", and Rosenberg's theory of nonviolent communication to contextualize their experience and provide possible solutions. In Part 3 Taylor joins me to discuss Episode 2 of Netflix' Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey. Trigger warning: sexual violence
To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to [email protected]
LINKS
Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/
The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto
Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions
Atomic Habits – https://amzn.to/2KCFs1E
Gottman's "Bids for Connection" - https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/
Breaking Free: How I Escaped Polygamy, the FLDS Cult, and My Father, Warren Jeffs - https://amzn.to/3Qyx28e
Keep up with me:
https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/
https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership
https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ
My books:
The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3
https://amzn.to/3sZYalY
The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up
https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA
Produced by Wowow