What do you do? Adam and Tanner don't know. But, if you haven't had someone in your family or a close friend leave yet, you will.

All too often the focus is on those who make the decision to go - the room that they need and the grace they should be extended. This is true. They are children of God and deserve his love. And those who stay also need space to process the pain, anger, and even a sense of betrayal that can come from big changes like this.

There are no easy, cut-and-paste answers here. And that doesn't mean it should be treated with kids gloves or not discussed at all.