Fiona Eckersley—confidence coach, author, and divorce recovery expert—shares that the best ways to get to the other side of a life-shattering experience are (1) to acknowledge that you’re going through a rough time; (2) to reach out for help; (3) to think about one thing that you’re grateful for every day; and (4) to practice self-compassion instead of beating yourself up. Fiona learned these lessons while enduring divorce and a loss of identity.

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