I know how I used to feel about forgiveness so I never want to force my current opinions on others. I do want to be able to tell my story and encourage others to take a close look at themselves and question whether they truly are "okay" with not forgiving someone. I used to think that I was not harboring ill feelings towards my mother and that forgiving her was not necessary until I began to notice my own toxic behaviors.  All I'm asking is that you stay true to yourself when it comes to what you need to feel whole.