In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships.

We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy.

Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing.

We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need.

Website: www.LorinaManzanita.com

Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course

00:00 Meet Lorina

02:00 Wounded Healer Origin

05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics

07:39 Mindset Versus Body

10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations

12:13 Different Parents Different Styles

17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern

22:57 Building Real Security

26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond

30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying

31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave

33:10 Finding Real Safety

35:02 Triggers and Resilience

36:54 Surrender and Worthiness

38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs

39:59 Asking Men Directly

40:45 Mending the Dad Bond

44:39 Eros Life Force Energy

46:37 Nature as Resourcing

48:05 Gratitude and God

49:54 Course Plug and Farewell

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