There’s a question that I hear a lot in the personal development space: “Did it happen to you or did it happen for you?” It’s a question to ask yourself, intended to help you get out of a victim mindset and see the bigger picture. It’s intended to help us reframe the way we view our abuse, trauma, or other life struggles, and to help us look for the positives we can pull out of the experience. I encourage you to ask yourself, “Did the narcissistic abuse only happen TO me? Or is there something…anything… about my story of abuse that can be used to work FOR me? Is there anything I’ve learned from the experience? Am I now better able to relate to and help others who have suffered in similar ways?” 

I want to be careful with how I approach this topic, Overcomer. Because, I never want to minimize your abuse or encourage you to simply look on the bright side and get over it. Rather, my intention with this episode is to help you find your power. I want to empower you to dig out some shred of good from a big heap of bad. We cannot go back and change the past, but we are in charge of how we choose to frame it, and what story we tell ourselves next.