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#654: How to Stop Fighting About Money
Fights about money are common, but they’re rarely about math. They’re about power, shame, vulnerability, and trust. And no amount of data or fancy spreadsheets is going to fix it.
What you need is a better system for fairness, more open communication, and a shared ambition.
In this candid conversation with Heather and Doug Boneparth, we explore how two partners rebuilt confidence, handled their six-figure student loans, and designed a rhythm for money talks that actually works.
Together they share how early money stories, law school debt, and the Great Recession shaped their dynamic, plus the tools they used to find fairness at home and in their finances
Key Takeaways
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Note: Timestamps will vary on individual listening devices based on dynamic advertising segments. The provided timestamps are approximate and may be several minutes off due to changing ad lengths.
(10:20) Law school, six-figure debt, then the market collapses
(14:51) Journalism dream, scarcity mindset, and choosing law for security
(20:08) Taking a steadier in-house role so the business could grow
(21:08) Refinancing, co-signing, and turning shame into teamwork
(37:32) Working together and launching the Money Together project
(55:10) How to run a money date and pick the right environment
(56:10) Fair Play and owning whole activities to reduce friction
(1:15:33) Where to find the book and newsletter, next steps
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By Fights about money are common, but they’re rarely about math. They’re about power, shame, vulnerability, and trust. And no amount of data or fancy spreadsheets is going to fix it.
What you need is a better system for fairness, more open communication, and a shared ambition.
In this candid conversation with Heather and Doug Boneparth, we explore how two partners rebuilt confidence, handled their six-figure student loans, and designed a rhythm for money talks that actually works.
Together they share how early money stories, law school debt, and the Great Recession shaped their dynamic, plus the tools they used to find fairness at home and in their finances
Key Takeaways
Resources and Links
Chapters
Note: Timestamps will vary on individual listening devices based on dynamic advertising segments. The provided timestamps are approximate and may be several minutes off due to changing ad lengths.
(10:20) Law school, six-figure debt, then the market collapses
(14:51) Journalism dream, scarcity mindset, and choosing law for security
(20:08) Taking a steadier in-house role so the business could grow
(21:08) Refinancing, co-signing, and turning shame into teamwork
(37:32) Working together and launching the Money Together project
(55:10) How to run a money date and pick the right environment
(56:10) Fair Play and owning whole activities to reduce friction
(1:15:33) Where to find the book and newsletter, next steps
Thanks to our sponsors!
Mint Mobile
Ready to say yes to saying no? Make the switch at mintmobile.com/paula. Plans start at $15/month.
Prolon
Prolon is offering 15% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Head to prolonlife.com/paula.
Shopify
Sign up for your one month, one dollar per month trial period and start selling today at shopify.com/paula
Indeed
If you’re looking for amazing talent to bolster your team, you need Indeed. Go to indeed.com/paula and start hiring with a seventy-five dollar sponsored job credit.