June 03, 2025

67 | Highly Intelligent, Perfectionistic and Introverted. How to Parent the Rare INTJ

21 minutes

Are you raising a future innovator, strategist, or systems architect? The INTJ is one of the rarest and most independent types—especially in girls—and their complex inner world can leave even the most insightful parent scratching their head. In this episode, we dive into the psychology behind the INTJ temperament, from their mysterious inner vision to their intense need for autonomy, structure, and meaning.

Learn how to parent an INTJ child with confidence by understanding their four psychological functions (Ni, Te, Fi, Se), how they show up in babies, grade schoolers, teens, and adults, and what kinds of real-world activities will light them up. You’ll also hear practical tips for helping INTJs build emotional awareness, balance their perfectionism, and adjust to life’s inevitable curveballs.

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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.

Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.

Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.

Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!

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By Wendy Gossett, Enneagram, Myers Briggs Expert, Family and Relationship Coach inspired by Brene Brown, Russ Greene, Priscilla Shirer, Beatrice Chestnut, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, and Rachel Hollis

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