Adults do this thing where we assume that if we know something, other people know it too and it's obvious. Parents even do this to their kids who have a lot less experience and education and for whom things are not so obvious. When we treat things as obvious, when they aren't to our kids, it hurts our kids' feelings and they don't learn what they should do. That is when parents become tormentors. But what we want for our kids is for them to come to us for help to learn what they should be doing. We want to be their mentors. Fireborn can help you switch from tormenting to mentoring.