Hello, beautiful souls!

James Fish Gill is a transformational communication facilitator and yoga teacher.

James shares his work of exploring how to create relationship safety through communication to transform conflict and come back to love. James talks about his personal relationships and how they have lead him to his present work.

Tess and James Acknowledge that we are in the Country. Always was. Always is. Always will be.

Episode Highlights:

- Who is James? [01:29]

- The realm of relationship conflict [02:40]

- The most profound, breakup experience [04:53]

- How to deal with the feelings of shame [08:20]

- Authenticity is to notice all the seeds that we have sowed and that we’re signing, related to teaching in yoga of karma, the fact that everything we do and not do is the sowing of seeds. Those seeds will grow certain types of trees that bear certain types of fruit and authenticity for us is owning the seeds that we plant and owning the fruit that they bear and trying to get the whole of that [10:23]

- I live an authentic life when I own my shit and my goals constantly [11:45]

- To find certainty in groundlessness (read: When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times book by Pema Chodron) [16:53]

- Intimacy is the ability to stay open and present to what's happening rather than pulling away from the difficulty and making an assessment and going somewhere else [24:56]

- When we get into conflict, we tend to just be like lawyers arguing in court [25:51]

- The survival mechanism [32:09]

- Dissolve a trigger by understanding that behind that thing that was said or done lies a beautiful intention and also lies some pain that this person is sitting with [38:07]

- Ask yourself two questions: What are they yearning for? What's the pain that they're sitting with? [39:21]

Find James at:
https://linktr.ee/james_fish_gill
www.leadbyheart.com

Reference:
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times - Pema Chödrön

Find Tess at
https://linktr.ee/risingwith
www.risingwith.com